The Strategic Wedding

My fiancee and I practicing with the focus mitts.
My fiancee and I practicing with the focus mitts.

As I sit here planning my own wedding (mere weeks away), I am struck by how planning a wedding is like planning a military campaign. Asides from the possible metaphor of love and war, the planning process between the two share many conceptual similarities. Both involve tactical, operational and strategic framing. Both require you to think about why you are doing this in the first place. And both require well developed capacities to succeed.

One of the tremendously helpful constructs from military strategy is looking at a given campaign from different frames of action, a concept developed more fully by the Action Studies Institute. By looking at a wedding from different frames of action (tactical, operational, strategic, foundational, transcendent) I can more effectively make it happen because quite frankly, the human brain is not capable of holding simultaneously all the details around hosting a 200 person party. It allows me to zoom out, look at the big picture, and then zoom back in to make sense of the bits and pieces.

What are these frames? Allow me to explain with some direct examples.

Most people who have planned events start with the day in mind and then work backwards thinking of all the tasks (tactical level) required to make it happen. Small tasks like getting boutineers and ordering bouquets can be grouped into higher level tasks – ordering flowers. These larger tasks could then become a full fledged operation that could be assigned to a person – the flower “captain” – who would take on the responsibility of ordering, delivering, and setting it up according to the specifications of the mission parameters such as colour scheme or the bride’s preferences.

The coordination and interlinking of the various operations (flower person, food person, decoration person) become a part of the strategic frame. You think about higher level objectives. What will be the look and feel of the wedding? How will these various operations be funded and supported? For instance, do I need to train someone on how to run my laptop? Good higher level objectives provide guidance for all operations.

As important as supporting and directing the operations is attempting to anticipate critical problems both external and internal to the “team”. While it’s always possible that vendors may fail to follow through (what? no food for guests?), the stress on family members may be such that they will not be able to address the issue. The strategic frame is not just about anticipating every possible problem, but developing the capacity to handle unanticipated problems. When you pair an open bar with a party, well, you simply have to accept that unexpected things will arise!

Thinking at the strategic level does not come naturally. As human beings, we are far more inclined to focus on the immediate needs and tasks. Our inclination is to get tactical. We are far less inclined to step back and work on the bigger picture. In business, we focus on execution. In addressing complex social issues, we jump to action. Rarely do we step back and ask whether what we are doing is helpful.

Frames of Action Map by Action Studies Institute
Frames of Action Map by Action Studies Institute

Even more difficult than thinking at the strategic level is thinking at the foundational level. This is the level of asking what this mission is for in the first place. Much like a couple asking themselves why they’re getting married in the first place, the discussion could be explosive because it challenges fundamental assumptions – why do you love me again? And yet, it is such a critical question because all the planning and strategizing means little if the foundation has not been well-formed. We could return to the occupation of Iraq by the US and see that not only was their strategy flawed (shock and awe for a “quick” war), but the reasons and purpose for the mission was based on a false premise (no WMDs or proven links to Al-Qaeda).

Why don’t we spend the time to test our foundational frame? Part of the reason is that we don’t want to face the fact that our cherished values and beliefs might be misguided, distorted, or plain wrong. Who wants that? The other reason is also a weak understanding of what humanity and life is all about (the transcendent frame). Without an understanding of the human story, our understanding of ourselves and others are likely to be limited. If life is in fact all about looking good and achieving status, then marriage will serve one sort of purpose. If life is a process of becoming a better human being, then marriage would serve another broader purpose. The study of life and wisdom is a life-long journey as repeatedly preached to us by the sages of the world.

Each of these frames interact with each other in interesting and dynamic ways. Each requires its own sets of capacities and ways of thinking. War or love, business or life… all can benefit from developing strong frames. Granted, a military campaign differs from wedding planning in that there are higher levels of uncertainty with opponents who are generally invested in killing you. On the other hand getting together a big multicultural family together for the first time has it’s own adaptive challenges!

I know that in a few more days, my conscious mind will be consumed by the operational details of making the wedding happen, but I hope that both my fiancee and I will be able to remember what this is all about and why we’re on this life journey together in the midst of the biggest party we’ll probably ever have. The wedding may go nothing like we expect, but our life will continue to flourish regardless.

Innovation doesn’t come from the Captains of Industry

Innovation doesn’t come from the captains of industry. It comes from a guy working in a garage. – Ian MacGreagor (Owner of the Museum of Making)

In this case, I think he means invention rather than innovation. Innovation is a broader social-cultural development which requires a community of explorers, inventors, collaborators, investors, early adopters and more. But original invention tends to come from someone who is tinkering at the fringes.

Many inventors don’t make it big, but it’s important to remember that every society depends on these few determined individuals who explore the edges of what we know. If we were serious about supporting innovation, then we would make sure that knowledge was as publicly accessible as possible and that people are free to take risks on their ideas without fear of losing their basic necessities.

During classical antiquity, this lack of a social safety net was a major barrier to innovation. Farmers would be highly resistant to trying new techniques when those new techniques might end up starving the entire family.

So be sure to take your fellow risk-takers out for lunch. We need as many of them as we can.

Finding your wonder in things

As I was vacuuming the stairs using the special attachment, the brush stopped spinning for no immediately obvious visible reason. Looks like it was time to take out the screwdriver! When I managed to unscrew the casing, I was confronted by an incredible sight: a beautifully constructed motor.

I was struck by a sense of wonder that this tiny motor, a few hundred years in making, lived in my vacuum cleaner. It’s a simple electrical device when compared to integrated circuits and cellphone signals. Plug it into a standard 120 VAC power source and the motor will spin. Simple.

Parts of the stair cleaning attachment for a vacuum

Yet imagine the generations of ingenuity that would be required to build this motor. First of all, you would need the material: copper, steel, plastics, rubber (for the belt), carbon (for the brush), zinc for the screws and who know what else. To build such a motor, you would need to understand something about electricity and magnetic fields. You would need to have the tools to machine all the parts to fit perfectly. You would need to come up with a solution for handling AC current, and you would certainly need a way to supply the electricity in the first place.

Close up of armature. Notice the copper windings and the segmented commutator. The grey boxes are carbon brushes.
Close up of armature. Notice the copper windings and the segmented commutator. The grey boxes are carbon brushes.

That is to say, this product has taken generations upon generations of people trying to figure out how the world works and how to put it to work. This is how great works have been achieved by the human kind.

So the next time you flick a switch or push a button remember that you are relying on the perseverance and thoughtfulness of countless other people.

Which reminds me, I wonder what I can do to add to this inter-generational work.